A paradigm is a collection of thoughts, behaviors, and perceptions that dictate our feelings, actions, and results. So often we’re stuck in what happened to us, what they did to us. In life you sometimes get to a point where you’re stuck, you’re stuck in moments from your past. We must deal with our issues!!! Maybe you’re stuck on a bad experience constantly thinking about it and why it happened. Don’t be so hard on yourself. A small progress is still better than nothing. Just keep going! You will get better and things will be easier. There is life after divorce, abuse and loss but we must do the inner work.